i fucking hate new years eve. new years day. new years resolutions.
actually the only thing i do like about it, is this meme.
stay with me. i actually think we’re onto something. and no, i’m not encouraging you to get blind drunk (although i’m not discouraging you either, you do you), rather, i’m asking you to reflect on what you want for yourself in 2018 and whether a new years resolution is actually going to help get you there.
let’s build on that. for 2018, i’m positing that we do something a little different. we practice acceptance. because acceptance must precede change, that is, if we want it to stick!
but what do i mean by this? and what does it look like?
well, put simply, the message is that i’ll love you and you’ll love you exactly as you are, warts and all (although you should probably get those checked out).
you can change, if you want but if you don’t, that’s okay too.
at this time of the year, we are bombarded with messages that we are not good enough. too small, too big, too loud, too quiet, too busy, too lazy. but don’t you think that practicing acceptance of yourself and others wholly and completely is a far more useful new years resolution?
i mean, if it’s a choice between than that and a list of things that are wrong with you, i know which one i’d pick. coz seriously, do we really still believe that ticking off a list of superficial shit that our whole life will suddenly be perfect?
soz. doesn’t work like that.
long lasting change doesn’t come from a place of lack. rather, change comes from knowing that you are good enough exactly as you are and anything else is simply a bonus.
so let’s flip it and reverse it.
instead of writing new years resolutions based on what you are not, write one based on what you already are.
i am strong.
i am caring.
i am grateful.
i am funny.
if you seriously do want to create some change in your life, let’s break the illusion of perfection, be okay with being “good enough”and work on gratitude and acceptance.
coz you know what. i already think you’re pretty awesome.